Always believe them when they say...

...that the ones smiling the most are hurting the most.

Now here I will kindly ask you not get cute and say things such as, "but what about when people get married or have a child or actually ARE happy, hm???"

Yes, you oh-so-clever person (if you get what I originally meant then I am sorry, this is not intended for you), sometimes people are happy and smile whilst being happy, yes. But I mean the people that always smile. In the puny amount of time I have spent on this planet, I have met several people that have proven this.

They are the happiest and friendliest people, yet i become close and eventually become familiar with the sadness and pain they have encountered in theur pasts.

It leads me to wonder....
Sometimes the best treatment for pain is faking it until you make it.
Does that not make sense? To hide your pain, you at first pretend to be happy. But it can be an exhausting task and for the people that are determined to hide their pain, it becomes crucial to find reasons to fake their happiness. And well, the rest is history I think. Eventually, looking for reasons to feign happiness can lead to actually being happy.

Anyway, I believe the strongest try to hide their pain. The strong think about others, not wishing to burden them, but also try to help themselves.

This would be both good and bad.

Good: You do not burden others and by helping yourself, you become stronger-mentally, physically, emotionally-for yourself and those who matter to you.
Bad: Not everyone can do it alone. We are social creatures, are we not? We thrive on the shared support and guidance that can only be found among friends, family, commrades, companions, etc.

I think I should stop here before I get off track or forget what I am trying to say. Just....

Do not assume you know them until you know them.


*quick note here-this is my theory/attempt to explain as to why the ones smiline the most could b the ones hurting the most*